Adoption Agencies

5 Apr

Since we last talked about adoption, we met with two more agencies.

Actually, met might be a little strong for one of the agencies.  The one agency is a large national agency.  They have a lot of experience and they’re nationwide so that means they have experience in every state where a birth mother would be.  However, they’re nationwide, which means they don’t have an office near us so our social worker would be several states away.  I liked them and thought they had a great deal of experience.  It’s the part where our social worker would be several states away and a disembodied voice on the phone thing that kind of puts me off.  We spoke with a couple that used them and they didn’t have a great experience but they said that friends of theirs have had great experiences.  So it’s a mixed bag.

We also met with a very small agency in the area.  They only take on 20 couples at a time so they are very personalized.  Their average wait time is about the same as other agencies.  My fear is that they are too small though.  For example,  after you are matched with a birth mom, you make a visit to her home and meet her.  This visit is entirely unmediated.  I’m not quite sure how I feel about that.  The other agencies we’ve spoken with have had a mediator at all meetings between the birth parents and adoptive parents.  The lawyer that this agency uses is excellent however.

We have a lot to think about.  I thought there would be an obvious choice.  I thought we would meet with an agency and I would know that it was the right place for us.  It’s not the case however.  We liked all the agencies and each of them had their own pros and cons.  I guess now it’s just a matter of weighing those pros and cons and making a choice to move forward.


2 Responses to “Adoption Agencies”

  1. FCblacksheep April 6, 2012 at 4:30 pm #

    It’s awesome you’re being so thorough. It’s a big decision. With so much thought and care put into it, I know you’ll make the right one.

  2. Alissa April 8, 2012 at 5:16 pm #

    I am so glad you are reaching out and seeing what’s out there. I just know there is a perfect little person our there for you. Keep up the hard work and you will find the right agency for you.

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