Starting our home study

2 Oct

We had a meeting at the agency today and received a folder containing all our paperwork that needs to be completed for the home study.  We sat down to go through all the papers and I was underwhelmed.  It didn’t seem like that much to me.  What were all these people complaining about?

As we started to go through the paperwork and what needed to be done, I started to realize all that those papers entailed.  And if we want to be on the books by the end of the year, it needs to be done in a month.   We need to be get our child abuse clearances, get our background checks done, get fingerprinted, get physicals, request copies of our marriage licenses, and get copies of all our financials.

In between all that, we both need to do our biographies.  Don’t worry, it’s not like we have to write off the top of our heads.  Nope.  Instead we have SEVEN PAGES OF QUESTIONS TO ANSWER.   It’s not like there is a question and then space to answer either.  It is seven straight pages of questions.   Then there is another two pager asking questions about adoption and our feelings about it.

We have a lot of work to do.

Not to mention the fact that we also have a ton of organization to do around the house before the actual home visit.

This is going to be a very busy month!


2 Responses to “Starting our home study”

  1. robakers October 2, 2012 at 11:11 pm #

    I am sorry for your loss and I know that you are hurting. I don’t have any words or advice to help you except try to keep smiling. Wish I had something more profound.

    My wife and I adopted (domestic) and I applaud you for moving forward with the process. It is tough and like a roller coaster, all up and down. Not very many smooth parts. Each time you think you are past the final hurdle another pops up.

    If I had any advice for you is to tell the agency that you don’t want to know if you have been selected until the child has been born and the birth mother has terminated her rights to the child. I know it cuts down on the time you have to prepare but there are so many things that derail the process. Those who know say that knowing about a child and then having the birth mother change her mind before relinquishing her rights is the equivalent to a miscarriage.

    We made the choice to not know and imagine our surprise when one day the phone rings and two weeks later you have a little bundle of work in your home. You can get ready with plenty of time. It takes faith but with the gift of hindsight you will know that your future child was destined to be in your family exactly the same as any other child. The only change is the story begins differently. Good luck with the process and God Bless.

  2. Alissa October 3, 2012 at 9:00 pm #

    It’s a lot. But you know what? It will keep your mind busy and give you something to focus on. Something positive. It’s a stressful process, but I am proud of you for moving forward with what you want. If you need to talk to others going through this process right now, I know a couple of other bloggers. Good luck.

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