I hate commercials

30 Apr

I just saw a commercial for Huggies Mommy Answers.  A woman runs into the kitchen and tells her husband, “We’re pregnant.”  They rejoice.  “You’re going to be a mom!” “You’re going to be a dad!”  “There’s a human being growing inside your stomach.”  “Now what?”  And they plug the questions into this Mommy Answers website, I guess.

Now what?

I never had the now what question and I doubt many of you had.  We knew what.  Go back in 48 hours for another beta.  Duh.  Keep going back til your numbers are sufficiently  high.  Go on progesterone or stay on progesterone if you had problems in the past.  Keep getting your levels tested.  Go in for that first ultrasound.  Pray for a heartbeat.  Go back weekly.  Pray every time.  Graduate from your RE.  Go into the abyss that is a regular OB’s office and realize that everyone else on earth thinks that pregnancy is just a routine thing that everyone goes through.  No big.  Go from being carefully monitored at all times to being seen every four weeks.  Go from internal ultrasounds to a quick Doppler check for the heartbeat. Keep praying. When everything goes to hell, pray some more.  Then decide whether you’re going to do it all over again or try something new.

Now what? I can’t even imagine not knowing anymore.


22 Responses to “I hate commercials”

  1. Wannabemom April 30, 2013 at 6:06 pm #

    I recently met with a client who was super excited about his impending baby and he was looking forward to their first appt and hearing the heartbeat at like 12/13 weeks. And I realized that “normal” people don’t get the heavy monitoring that we do. Another g/f recently told me that when she went to her doctor, they didn’t even send her for blood work! Let alone follow-up betas! Our world is so very different.

    And btw, I hate commercials too.

    • Anna April 30, 2013 at 6:15 pm #

      Yup. “Normal” people think nothing of it too. My friend has ultrasound photos from 12 weeks and 20 weeks from her kid. And that baby is like two now. My baby was never born and I have pages and pages of ultrasound photos of him.

  2. allmyprettyones April 30, 2013 at 7:58 pm #

    How annoying that the commercial implies that all babies go from “positive pregnancy test” to living babies. It makes us feel so invisible.

    • Anna May 1, 2013 at 6:26 pm #

      It does. I realize that it doesn’t sell diapers to think about that but it’s just so hard to watch when you’re not buying diapers.

  3. SM April 30, 2013 at 8:53 pm #

    That commercial makes me mad. It seems to say that nothing ever goes wrong and that babies never die. Normal people may go around thinking that’s how it works but that’s not always reality.

    • Anna May 1, 2013 at 6:27 pm #

      Normal people have no idea how lucky they are not to imagine all the things that could go wrong.

  4. Cindy April 30, 2013 at 9:26 pm #

    I hear the radio commercials for that. I just think it must be nice to have no worries that you won’t be coming home with a healthy baby after a wonderful, problem-free nine months. Now that I’m on the other side of infertility (choosing to be child-free), it doesn’t hurt me like it would have a year or two ago.

    • Anna May 1, 2013 at 6:34 pm #

      I think time does heal. I know it’s getting easier. I wonder if the day will come where I won’t care at all.

  5. FCblacksheep May 1, 2013 at 5:44 am #

    How true this is. And you know if we were running to that computer it was to obsessively research beta numbers and every known cause of miscarriages ever. I would not dare visit a diaper site.

    • Anna May 1, 2013 at 6:35 pm #

      I know! At that point, the only thing I was thinking about was getting to the next week. I wouldn’t have dared jinx things by going to Huggies!

  6. Erin May 1, 2013 at 7:02 am #

    Oh how I hate that commercial! I change the channel whenever it comes on. Just goes to show how “the other side” lives I guess – in ignorant bliss that everything will always be OK and that there are bigger things to worry about than “what do we do now?” because as you noted – every good IFer already knows.

    • Anna May 1, 2013 at 6:37 pm #

      I usually skip commercials because I DVR but somehow this one slipped in while I was watching really bad ABC Family tv.

  7. Gail K May 1, 2013 at 8:42 am #

    I hate those commercials. Why would a newly pregnant person who doesn’t have other children go to a diaper website for advice? More like ass-vice. Are people really that stupid?

    • Anna May 1, 2013 at 6:37 pm #

      Yeah, it’s really an odd thing for Huggies to do – especially when there are so many other websites already doing this job!

  8. Alicia May 1, 2013 at 10:03 am #

    This is a great post. It clearly illustrates how clueless mainstream society is about infertility… and I agree wholeheartedly. WE know what is next. WE know that there is so much that can happen in between the positive and the live baby.

    • Anna May 1, 2013 at 6:39 pm #

      Honestly though, I feel like in the world of OPKs and pregnancy forums, are even fertile people that confused once they get pregnant? Unless, it’s a true oops which it doesn’t appear to be in this commercial, most people kind of know what’s next even for a fertile.

  9. Maureen May 1, 2013 at 8:36 pm #

    I hate that commercial too! It makes me cringe to see such ignorant enthusiasm. Thanks for your post, you have really hit the nail on the head.

    • Anna May 2, 2013 at 6:06 pm #

      I just hate hate hate the fact that so many of us are denied that ignorant enthusiasm.

  10. Robin May 6, 2013 at 4:41 pm #

    I hate all baby commercials! There’s this Target one playing right now and its just all these adorable babies and their parents and everyone is so happy and all is well with the world. I remember watching it one day and I turned to my husband and said, “It’s funny how they only show the happy side of having babies on TV.” I hate that the fact that most people have healthy pregnancies and wonderful babies is shoved in my face all the time.

    • Anna May 7, 2013 at 7:49 pm #

      It’s so taken for granted that pregnancies end with babies. I wish it were always so.

  11. Rhonda May 9, 2013 at 10:01 pm #

    I hate that commercial, too!!!!!!!!!!! Usually I leave the TV on (like not muted) and I go about whatever I’m doing and don’t just sit in front of the TV (you know, listening to it more than watching). But I have figured out what the beginning of that commercial sounds like (“Honey?? Honey!!”) and I run flying towards the TV and dive for the remote and frantically scramble for the mute button. I think Hubby’s even learned to mute it for me by now!

    • Anna May 10, 2013 at 6:11 pm #

      I used to be that way with the commercial for Gmail that was “Dear Sophie Lee.” Not because I hated it but because I loved it so much and it made me sob.

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